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Working With Infidelity: After An Affair, Who Owns the Relationship? AND His Porn, Her Pain: Confronting American's PornPanic With Honest Talk About Sex(6 CEs)

  • September 21, 2018
  • 9:00 AM - 4:00 PM
  • Crowne Plaza Northbrook 2875 North Milwaukee Avenue Northbrook, IL 60062 Room: Congress Ballroom A&B

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Two-Part All Day Workshop
Working With Infidelity: After An Affair, Who Owns the Relationship?

His Porn, Her Pain: Confronting American's PornPanic With Honest Talk About Sex
(6 CEs)


    Presenter: Dr. Marty Klein


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Workshop Description Part I: Working With Infidelity: After An Affair, Who Owns the Relationship?
Every therapist deals with affairs—sexual, emotional, internet. And although most therapists say they use a “systems approach,” it’s hard to maintain that perspective when cases are presented as involving a selfish Betrayer and a heartbroken Betrayed. Or a deprived, desperate partner and an indifferent, withholding mate. Supporting the dignity and humanity of both parties gives a couple the best chance to reconcile. The idea that the Betrayer has to beg forgiveness and accept whatever relationship the Betrayed demands is a disservice to both parties, and it typically leads to client dropouts or treatment failure. In cases involving infidelity, challenging patients’ stereotypes about both power and sexuality is vital—which requires insight, creativity, and self-discipline from the therapist.
Cellphone records, email passwords, intimate details of when & where—after an affair, does one person gain the right to whatever information they want? And even if they do, is demanding such information wise? Does the unfaithful person have to leave the house if the angry party demands it? Who decides if the children get told—and what they’re told? In this workshop we’ll examine the nuts and bolts of power dynamics and sexuality in the wake of actual or perceived betrayal.

Workshop Description Part II: His Porn, Her Pain: Confronting American's PornPanic With Honest Talk About Sex
With the dramatic new availability of pornography, we now see a huge increase in the number of patients involved in it; the number of couples in conflict about it; and the number of parents concerned about it. Are we prepared to provide them quality therapy?
This talk discusses the simultaneous phenomena of increased porn availability and society’s increased anti-porn activism—while most professionals struggle with their lack of training about porn.
Issues covered include:

  • What is most pornography actually like?
  • What is known about the impact of pornography use on relationships
  • Data on the impact of pornography on sexual violence and child molestation—which our field continues to ignore
  • Couples conflicts about porn use—and how honest talk about sex can help resolve those conflicts
  • How the predominant clinical models of porn use rely on destructive gender stereotypes
  • How the concept of “porn addiction” undermines clinical outcomes—and how to use a more effective treatment model
  • Why building “porn literacy” in young people is essential to their digital and relationship health—and why adults find this so difficult, and how we can help them.

Is it possible for people to use pornography in a healthy way? And is it possible for couples to disagree about one partner’s porn use and get on with the rest of their lives? Our field needs a straightforward conversation about these simple questions; drawing on his new book His Porn, Her Pain, Dr. Klein will honestly address these critical questions.

Objectives: As a result of participating in the workshop, attendees will:

Workshop participants will learn fresh ways of looking at affairs, fidelity, and sexuality—so that they can better evaluate patients, sort out individual and relationship issues, and help people heal from the experiences of powerlessness, grief, rage, and damaged self-esteem that are common on both sides of betrayal.

 
Location:Image result for crowne plaza northbrook
Crowne Plaza Northbrook
2875 North Milwaukee Avenue
Northbrook, IL 60062
Room: Senate Ballroom A&B

Schedule
8:30am-10:00am - Workshop - Working With Infidelity: After An Affair, Who Owns the Relationship?
10:00am-10:15am - Break
10:15am-12:00pm - Workshop -
Working With Infidelity: After An Affair, Who Owns the Relationship?
12:00pm-1:00pm Lunch (On your own)
1:00pm-2:15pm
Workshop - Working With Infidelity: After An Affair, Who Owns the Relationship?
2:15pm-2:30pm -
Break
2:30pm-4:00pm
Workshop - His Porn, Her Pain: Confronting America's Porn Panic with Honest Talk About Sex - Including Q&A
Cancellation Policy. Registrations, cancelled before seven days prior to the workshop, can be refunded minus a $20 administration fee. No refunds can be made seven days prior to the workshop. Workshops may be cancelled or rescheduled due to inadequate registration or other circumstances beyond our control. If IMHCA cancels a workshop due to inadequate registration, you will receive a full refund. IMHCA is not responsible for any loss or damage as a result of substitution, alteration, or cancellation of an event. IMHCA shall assume no liability whatsoever in the event that a workshop is cancelled, rescheduled or postponed due to fortuitous event, Act of God, unforeseen occurrences or any other event that renders performance of this conference impracticable, illegal or impossible. For purposes of this clause, a fortuitous event shall include, but not be limited to: war, fire, labor strike, extreme weather or other emergency. IMHCA will make every effort to offer a substitution event in the case IMHCA cancels because of a fortuitous event or Act of God.

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