Two-Part All Day Workshop
Working With Infidelity: After An Affair, Who Owns the Relationship?
His Porn, Her Pain: Confronting American's PornPanic With Honest Talk About Sex (6 CEs)
Workshop Description Part I: Working With Infidelity: After An Affair, Who Owns the Relationship?Every therapist deals with affairs—sexual, emotional, internet. And although most therapists say they use a “systems approach,” it’s hard to maintain that perspective when cases are presented as involving a selfish Betrayer and a heartbroken Betrayed. Or a deprived, desperate partner and an indifferent, withholding mate. Supporting the dignity and humanity of both parties gives a couple the best chance to reconcile. The idea that the Betrayer has to beg forgiveness and accept whatever relationship the Betrayed demands is a disservice to both parties, and it typically leads to client dropouts or treatment failure. In cases involving infidelity, challenging patients’ stereotypes about both power and sexuality is vital—which requires insight, creativity, and self-discipline from the therapist.Cellphone records, email passwords, intimate details of when & where—after an affair, does one person gain the right to whatever information they want? And even if they do, is demanding such information wise? Does the unfaithful person have to leave the house if the angry party demands it? Who decides if the children get told—and what they’re told? In this workshop we’ll examine the nuts and bolts of power dynamics and sexuality in the wake of actual or perceived betrayal.
Workshop Description Part II: His Porn, Her Pain: Confronting American's PornPanic With Honest Talk About Sex
With the dramatic new availability of pornography, we now see a huge increase in the number of patients involved in it; the number of couples in conflict about it; and the number of parents concerned about it. Are we prepared to provide them quality therapy?
This talk discusses the simultaneous phenomena of increased porn availability and society’s increased anti-porn activism—while most professionals struggle with their lack of training about porn. Issues covered include:
Is it possible for people to use pornography in a healthy way? And is it possible for couples to disagree about one partner’s porn use and get on with the rest of their lives? Our field needs a straightforward conversation about these simple questions; drawing on his new book His Porn, Her Pain, Dr. Klein will honestly address these critical questions.
Objectives: As a result of participating in the workshop, attendees will:
Workshop participants will learn fresh ways of looking at affairs, fidelity, and sexuality—so that they can better evaluate patients, sort out individual and relationship issues, and help people heal from the experiences of powerlessness, grief, rage, and damaged self-esteem that are common on both sides of betrayal.
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