Sunday - March 6, 2016
Dr. Marty Klein
Topic: When Sex Gets Complicated: Pornography, Infidelity, & Cybersex
The number of patients involved in pornography, non-monogamy, sadomasochism, online eroticism, and sex toys has dramatically increased. Are we prepared to provide them quality therapy?
There are fundamental things about sexuality that the internet has not changed: the desire to feel desired; insecurity about “performance;” the search for the perfect partner; the yearning for connection—combined with the fear of intimacy; the desire for pleasure—and fear of sexuality’s power.
The internet, however, has increased everyone’s opportunities for sexual expression: 24-hour pornography; apps that feed the hookup culture; the flood of online information; sex toys for sale on Amazon (and WalMart.com); Match.com & Ashley Madison; platforms for every kind of sex work; and, um, let’s not forget 24-hour pornography.
With everyone’s old-fashioned brain and body attempting to function sexually in a post-modern world, new challenges have emerged for therapists, including:
* How can we help partners with contrasting sexual values talk with each other productively?
* After infidelity (online or offline), how do we hold both partners while they struggle to define their behavior, contract, and emotions? What if they don’t agree on the definition of “infidelity”? What if one partner wants to change their sexual arrangement?
* What is the structure of typical couples’ conflicts about pornography—and what are these conflicts really about? How do we help two adults negotiate meaningful agreements about their private sexuality when one or both of them feel sad, lonely, disappointed, or angry about their sexual relationship? How do we help someone who’s using porn in a self-destructive way?
The sexual problems people now bring us seem more complicated than they used to. People with diverse sexual practices are talking about them more. The internet creates new opportunities for experience—and for confusion, exploitation, bad decision-making, and heartbreak.
* How far is “too far” when sadomasochism is concerned?
* What is most pornography actually like?
* Is there such a thing as healthy use of pornography? If so, what does that look like?
* Is there such a thing as healthy non-monogamy? If so, how can we distinguish it from fear of intimacy or commitment?
* How do we respond when a patient says “that’s just internet play,” and their partner says, “no, that’s cyber-infidelity?”
* Is there such a thing as sex addiction? Porn addiction? Internet addiction? Why does it matter what we call it?
* What should we do if we simply disapprove of a patient’s sexual practices?
Sex is getting more complicated for everyone. This seminar will help clinicians navigate this increasingly complex world.Don't miss this opportunity.
Early registration until January 6, 2016 only $75 for IMHCA members. $125 non-membersCEs:
Workshop will be 6.0 CEs/PDs for LPC/LCPC; LSW/LCSW; LMFT; Psychologists.
Lunch is on your own.
Space is limited. This workshop will sell out.
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